The Trojan Man: Older is not always better

While it is true that dating older women has its benefits, for the most part it is a stressful labyrinth of issues, expectations, and plans for the future.

There are numerous myths that make the rounds of the dating world when it comes to age. One of the most popular assumptions is that dating older women is, for lack of a better phrase, the “way to go.” Younger men, blinded by films like American Pie, view older women as founts of endless sexual energy with knowledge and skills to make the most chaste of men question their vows of celibacy. While it is true that there are obvious positives to dating an older woman, it is not without trials and tribulations.

The obvious negative in being with an older woman is that she expects you to act HER age, not necessarily YOUR age. They want to move at their speed, no faster and no slower. If the man tries to speed things up, or slow things down, it often ends in disaster. To say that older women enjoy being in the driver’s seat is an understatement of epic proportions. If the older woman in question wants to defile you on the first date, then she will. If she instead decides to take things slowly, as is her decision of course, then woe to the man who tries to pressure her into it sooner then she chooses.

Granted, not all situations with older women end disastrously. The majority of the time such pairings can, and do, turn out beneficial for both parties.The younger man’s endless amount of sexual energy mixed with the older woman’s sex drive sounds life fun right? But be realistic. She knows what she wants, and she knows what she likes. Things will be done her way, which is of course the correct way, and that will be that.

So, with all that being said, the best advice to curious young men is this: know what you are getting yourself into. If you are truly fed up with dating women of your age group, or younger, then feel free. But, if you assume that it will be nothing but madness in the bedroom, then you will be sadly disappointed.Unless you’re okay with having zero say on the topic, and if you are then have fun.