Dear Johnny,
I’m 28 years old and I go to bars and clubs to meet women. I often find myself wondering if I will ever find the right woman doing this. I have always met women at bars and clubs and none of the relationships last longer than a few months. They usually cost me a great deal of money as well. What can I do to change this and find myself someone special?
Dear Barhopper,
Although I believe you can meet the right person just about anywhere simply by living your life and being patient, only going to bars and clubs really restricts the type of woman you are going to find. For example, some women hate dancing and drinking; women that don’t like karaoke and drunken men constantly hitting on them. My point is if you really want to broaden your horizons, you need to think of other places to meet women. Parks can be a nice place to meet someone new, or how about a café, or eating dinner for one at a restaurant with a sad expression? Okay, scratch the last one, but all of the other places are legitimate hang outs for beautiful women. Spend some time going to new places, talk to people, be merry, and women will notice and appreciate an easy going guy that just wants to talk.
Another piece of advice is to stop making this one of your main priorities. Sit back and enjoy life and life will throw beautiful things at you constantly. Just keep your eyes open. If you think about it, meeting people is easy. Where a lot of us mess up is when we try too hard and lose our best qualities in the process. Try going out with the intention of meeting a new friend. After all, there is not better foundation for a successful relationship than a good solid friendship.