Dear Johnny,
I met a guy about a week ago at a bar. We had a great time, drank a lot, and ended up back at my place for a night cap. The next morning I found myself confused and embarrassed. Does this mean I have to date him? Am I a jerk if I don’t continue a relationship with him? Help me because it’s been a week and it’s been filled with confusing texts and awkward conversations.
–Miss
Dear Miss,
Meeting men and women at bars is usually more negative than positive unless you are attending an event or meeting with friends already. The reason I say this is that both men and women that frequent bars are usually only looking for one thing, maybe two things if you include alcohol. With that being said, I will start by saying that I personally don’t believe that having sex with someone necessarily means that you are obligated to begin a relationship with that person. Do you two have things in common? How much fun did you have before you were inebriated? These are the types of questions you want to ask yourself.
Now about the weird texts and conversations you two have been having, are they awkward because one of you is being standoffish or because you are not sure what you want? Really think about that because if you want something more than weird awkwardness, then you can still have a chance with this guy. If you don’t want to be with this guy at all and you were just having fun, then just tell him that from the beginning. Don’t beat around the bush or try to break the news to him softly; just tell him what you feel. That way there is no confusion or awkwardness at all, and it will definitely be better than prolonging it and hurting his feelings. The last thing anyone wants is to wake up next to a wildebeest, so try a new place when looking for a guy or a good time.