This week I thought I would do something different for Dear Dr. G. I thought I would list the biggest goofs men do on the first date.
Number 10 – Showing up late. On the first date nothing shows disinterest more than showing up late. She is left their waiting for you, alone, which is never a good feeling. It secretes in her mind a fear of being stood up and an overwhelming feeling of nervousness. She might not show it when you arrive, but trust me you’ve have already given her a first impression about you, and it’s none to flattering. Number 9 – Not fixing yourself up. I’m not talking really about clothing because each person has a unique style and you’re date should understand that. But not brushing your teeth, putting on deodorant or clone, and not fixing your hair, come on, would you want her to be like that. Number 8 – Not paying for the first date at all. Personally I think that a man should pay for the first date but to not help pay at all is a jerk move. No woman wants to be with a gold digger, they may want to be one, but they certainly don’t want to be with one.Number 7 – Indecisive. Have a plan. Don’t just go into it with a vague idea. Nothing brings a date to a halt more than not knowing what to do.Number 6 – Lying; not being yourself. She’s out with you, she said yes to you, not someone else, just you. So be you. You don’t need to lie, she wants to know about you, and if this relationship is going to go anywhere than it’s better to not build it on a foundation of lies. Number 5 – Don’t just talk about yourself; have an actual conversation. Ok now you’re on this date to know about her, so don’t just talk about yourself the whole time. It’s fine to talk about yourself but don’t just get wrapped up in just that. Listen to what she’s saying and give actual opinions. Number 4 – Don’t get so emotionally ahead of yourself. Don’t be the guy who talks about having children with the girl and getting married on the first date. That would scare anybody away. You can be completely head over heels about the girl but don’t jump from “hello” to “let’s get married”. Take the steps to get there, I mean in baseball you don’t go from first to home with out rounding second and third. Number 3 – Flirting with other girls. Alright I don’t understand this one. If you’re on a date with a girl you should be there for her and only her. If you’re not, than don’t be on the date. Number 2 – Being gross. Sorry guys but if you fart, scratch your butt, or pick your nose on the first date, you’re pretty much guaranteeing yourself no second date. Having her pull your finger, having a booger flinging contest, or locking all the windows in your car while you rip one is not the way to a women’s heart.Number 1 – Talking about your exes. She does not want to hear about how you ruined your relationships before her. It is not endearing and that is the most self sabotaging thing you can do. It shows that your still not over the other person and that can give the illusion and weight of comparison. No woman wants to have to compete with her partner’s ex, especially with someone who they’re just starting to get to know.