Advice Nerd:

Soon it will all be over. School is coming to an end for winter break. Soon, you won’t have to worry about homework, textbooks, or parking fees. You’ll get a break from annoying deadlines, bothersome instructors, and all those people you can’t stand in your classroom. But before that happens, you’ll have to deal with them for just a little while longer… Kyle, one of our Staff Writers at The Skyline View, wants to know how to maintain his sanity when forced to work with people he cannot stand. Here are a few tips to keep yourself from laying the smack down on your irritating peers.

VentEvery day I get off work and I scream vulgarities at the top of my lungs. Why? Because I work with children, and children make me feel irritated some time. I’m not allowed to curse during working hours, so I take some time at the end of my busy day to release the pent up frustration that comes with my job. The same thing applies to school: if someone is bothering you in class, don’t hit them in the face like you may want to. Wait until it’s over and scream… just not at me.

Speak your mindOne of the most destructive things a person can do is not communicate. Keeping your lips sealed about your negative feelings will slowly make your resentment fester. It will grow like cancer unless you either talk with a friend or talk with the person who causes you such discomfort. Keeping your thoughts open can greatly ease the tension of any conflict that may be there between yourself and the person you despise, especially if you can maintain a civilized conversation with the person in question. Don’t walk up and say something like “Hi, I hate you, see you around,” but rather explain politely how you feel. I know I sound like a shrink or some kind of crystal-gazer talking about sharing your feelings, but it really does work. If you guys hate each other so much, how can it hurt?

Money talksBeing stuck with a person you hate can make things at work and/or school very difficult, to say the least. There are tons of reasons to just leave it all behind, find another job or a better class, but there are even more reasons to stay. Mainly, money is the factor. I find that a good dollar sign can change my mind about someone right quick. If you don’t stick around and get a good education at school, you won’t make the big bucks later in life. If you quit your job, you’re just plain out of luck. Either way, staying employed/enrolled is a better idea that running from the things that bother you.

There’s always a reason for hating someone at work or school. Sometimes there’s a relationship between peers, sometimes a comment or insult can forge a crack between two people, and sometimes you just can’t stand someone. Whatever the reason, maintaining professionalism is very important in school or at work. Getting into a fight or a loud argument is a big no-no. If my advice helps you, great. If not, I’d like to hear about it… email me at [email protected] for any questions you may have over Winter Break or if you feel the need to complain. Don’t be afraid.