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The J-Spot: Fake it or break it

The J-Spot: Fake it or break it
By Daniel Chee/The Skyline View

Have you perfected that “O” face yet? You know that face you’re not entirely sure of, but you do what you can to “perform”, when they can’t? Will faking it really ruin your partner’s ego?

Times in the past when I’ve faked it, the reasoning was I just needed it to be over. Sparks fade, things become routine and when things aren’t going right in a relationship, sex for sure won’t go well either.
My first relationship was when I first had sex, so obviously she was all I knew and all I had ever had. And let’s be real, after two and a half years of knowing one thing—It got a little boring. It was bound to happen that someone in the relationship was going to fake it, and I know for a fact that I did. My reasoning for doing so was boredom. I hate to say it but “lezbehonest” I just wanted it to be over. If I act like I’m done, it’s going to be over, right? I just didn’t want it anymore.

Although my reasons for faking it were because of boredom and that the spark was no longer there, there are times when people fake it because they aren’t in the mood and just want to please their partner. I’ve heard a plethora of excuses from couples that ranged from, “I was too tired” to “I wasn’t in the mood.” None of those reasons had to do with a bored sex life only that their partner wanted to have sex and they didn’t. There’s nothing wrong with that, but I can see where egos get involved.

Coming from the more egotistical side of a relationship, I get it guys! I’d be upset if a girl faked an orgasm with me too. Personally I’m a very cocky person, and thankfully I’ve never been faked on. If I did, I’d do what guys I know have done. I would get angry and feel terrible! The source of the anger is because our feelings are hurt. LADIES, it’s what we do, and it’s just how it goes. We aim to please, and quite frankly, sex is something we pride ourselves on. It’s something we control and know we can do to make you happy, along with ourselves.

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Being a girl that loves girls, I see both sides of the situation. I understand why girls fake it, obviously, I’ve done it. We girls sometimes think we are doing this out of kindness. We think we are pleasing our partner because it’s what they want, because we all know if we just got up halfway through and said you just aren’t giving me what I want, our partner is not going to act very calmly.

What I’ve been trying to tell everyone is that the end result is the same regardless of the excuse, girls fake and orgasm just for the sex to be over. Whether we like it or not that’s just how it is. It’s inevitable.

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