Sweaty palms. Nervous laughter. Awkward silences. Word vomit. Sounds like things we’d all like to refer to as the “first date jitters.” But does it always have to be that way? Do we really need to over analyze everything our date does, or can it be relaxed? Is standard below average, or do we just not raise the bar high enough for our suitors?
To the initiator, if you’ve decided a person that is worth the trouble, my tip to you would be to prove that they are. Honestly, dinner and a movie is such an outdated standard that most people abide by. The standard is amongst us, school wide, and it is completely apparent.
“That’s how it’s supposed to be all the time.” said Cara Macaraig regarding dinner and a movie.
“It’s what you’re supposed to do,” said student Ed Marji in agreement with the standard.
If you are looking to impress “the usual” will simply not do it. Think about it, if you date by the normal standard, wouldn’t it make your pursuit feel average rather than being above average. You want to look good and let it be known that your date is worth the time and effort to get to know.
The Bay Area is a very culturally diverse community, not to mention we live right by the City by the Bay! There are about 101 things you can do on a date other than a dinner and a movie. With or without a budget, formal or informal there are a number of things available for you to do.
“If it was me, I’d end it off on a view like Twin Peaks, but different” said student Uce Veu.
Men and woman be more up front of intentions are more than friends. It shows the respect you may have for the other person and clears away any confusion a.k.a. embarrassment that might occur.
Go back to times where men were gentlemen and asked a woman on a date. The courage alone is admirable and impressive. It can truly impact the person’s first impression of you in this light. The way in which you ask a person out on a first date depends on what type of girl or guy they are. So men, don’t be upset if your corny pick up line doesn’t work on every girl you see.
Make the person you want to take out feel like your effort is genuine. Put thought into it! By the time you get to the first date you should know enough about the person to base your plans on their basic interests.
Do not, I repeat, DO NOT go somewhere that you can’t have a conversation. Why take someone out if you can’t even want to talk to them. All of that goes back to not doing the mediocre dinner and a movie.With an exciting date, you shouldn’t have to search for words, they should come easier making conversation more comfortable and enjoyable.
Don’t let the stigma of a first date get you too nervous. Don’t over analyze. Don’t jump to conclusions. Dress appropriately for the occasion. Just go with the flow and be naturally you. If you do something fun, interesting, and different you shouldn’t have to worry about trying to find things to say.
Break the stigma of first dates. Bring back chivalry and charm while embracing the new era of dating. I want every girl to feel special, and every guy to put in the effort.
