Have you been wondering why fewer Women have been getting married? If yes, then I’m here to tell you why. If you want to talk numbers, according to pewsocialtrends.org: In 2012, one-in-five American adults ages 25 and older (about 42 million people) had never been married. That’s actually up 15 percent from men and 17 percent for women in 1960.

There are a multitude of reasons why more and more adults are choosing not to get married. In years past, couples didn’t mind taking the plunge, getting married and building a household together. Nowadays it’s all about stability, and where does stability come from? It comes from having an adult career and an adult mindset. People aren’t going to take a gamble on marrying someone who doesn’t have a stable job, and then end up having to go through a divorce a few years down the line.

I find it extremely important for a potential partner to have a stable job and mindset. Because, let’s face it, no one wants to be with someone who is unmotivated and lazy, unless that’s your thing then by all means go for it.

Coming from a woman’s perspective, being with someone who has a stable job and is goal oriented is very pivotal not only in a relationship, but also if you are planning to start a family with this person. And there’s nothing better than being with someone who not only can act as a great partner but also a great parent.

No I don’t need a sugar daddy. Most women don’t want to be taken care of because they can take care of themselves, but they do want someone who will be right there beside them in an equal partnership.

It’s the everyday things, like having a stable job and a goal oriented mindset, that say a lot about who someone will be in the future. For example, if you meet someone who has a low credit score, that may seem like a very minor thing to be worried about now, but how about if in the future you would like too buy a home with this person? How a man handles his finances can really tell you about where he’s going in life. Remember ladies, you don’t want to be playing babysitter while he’s playing catch-up.

In the world of today if you’re single take advantage of it. Take this time to build yourself up to be the person who you would like to be, before you link your life with a like-minded partner. Your mindset now should be to build a household while you’re still single and then finding someone who is at the same level as you. So, are you really with your soul mate?