Hello one and all! This is Dr. G welcoming you to another edition of Dear Dr. G. As some of you may or may not have realized, last issue there was no Dear Dr. G column. I had contracted a severe case of strep throat, not a staph infection as some had purposed, and was knocked out for a good solid week. Who knew you could still get strep even after having your tonsils out?
Anyways enough about my weak immune system, today I will answer a question on how to approach someone if you’re not sure if how they feel about you.
Dear Doctor G,
Q. I’ve been really into this guy for about 3 weeks now, and all we seem to do is just give each other the eye. I don’t know if I should make a move because I don’t know if he feels the same way. Help! How do I find out if he likes me without being obvious?
A: Well this is very common question. Two people are in class, one gives the other a glance, the other sensing this stares back. Soon you two are doing a game of stare tag and wondering if this means more. There of course is the simple way of finding out, where you simply walk over to the other person and ask if they want to grab something to eat. Because of the easier chance of personal injury and humiliation this is one of the least taken approaches. You could be lucky and have mutual friends and have them try to infiltrate and find out what the other person thinks. Of course in this era of digital communication you can look for them on Myspace or Facebook and start communicating more deeply in that forum. Personally I think you should slowly escalate the interaction between you two, work yourself up. You mentioned you have the same class together, perhaps you can make a passing comment on how you don’t get something, and hopefully they will bite and you two can spark a conversation that way. After that since you have already had an introductory conversation, you can go farther and talk more with out having it be awkward. Once you’re at that point you can go ahead and ask to hang out and you’re on your way. This path is probably the safest to go but I myself prefer a more direct yet charming way. I am sure that everyone at one point has seen either in movies or in person, one of those notes where they ask the other person if they like them and there is three boxes to check: yes, no, and maybe. I think this way is very clever because you don’t risk face to face rejection but yet you can get a direct answer.
Hoping stares leads to more, Dr. G
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